No such thing as a life that's better than yours

In the last 5 years I’ve traveled the world quite a bit, 10 plus countries including 5 continents. Through my travels, I’ve seen a lot of different things that I thought I’d never see and or didn’t exist at all. Majority of the countries I’ve traveled to have been “third world countries” though I hate using that term I’m gonna use it to give people better insight on what exactly I’m going to speak about. I noticed a common trend of wanting what you don’t have.

Many people in the western world have an easier time than most but it also makes it more difficult psychologically. If you have ever seen a war movie you see how those in war deal with death. Their Sargeant dies and they keep it pushing, no time to grieve, there’s still a mission at hand. So in the developed world where there’s enough food, water, shelter, etc, you don’t have to worry about when the next meal is coming. So in return, the universe gives you different shit to deal with. Now you realize daddy never been around, mama is doing drugs, nobody loves you unconditionally. 

A lot of those same people try and find fixes in different ways to try to fill that void they have buried deep within, so they buy a lot of clothes but do really need them, they take drugs to escape the world they’re in temporarily. Buy buy buy, the more i buy the more my problems will go away, But they’ll never go away that way.

So I’ve seen people go what you would say backward in life. They leave to go to the third world and live humbly in order to fix themselves. But in the words of Jay Z “Wherever you are you are who you are”. Don’t get me wrong-a geographical location does play a big factor in your happiness, but it’s not the end all be all. No matter where you go you’ll never be content till you figure out what to fill your void with.

On the other side of things people in the 3rd world try and get into the first because they think all of their issues will magically disappear cause money will get rid of them. Oh, I see says the blind man. Honestly, I think a big part of the loop of amazingness is the media, social, and otherwise. We’re constantly bombarded with highlight reels of people on a daily basis and being exposed to the 1% of people as if it’s the 99%. Most people are average and that’s okay. Chasing special is something you’ll never catch, cause once you catch it you’ll no longer see it as special. Special is subjective. One man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Special is your opinion, you get to decide what’s special.

Purpose purpose purpose. That word is thrown around so often that it starts to lose it’s meaning. It’s simple, those people in the third world are actively trying to stay afloat on a consistent day-to-day basis, you think the taco stand is a purpose? No. It’s just what is needed to get through the day and set yourself up for your future. Why are they so happy when they don’t have much? Simple. You don’t need much to be happy. All you need to do is 2 things.

Perspective. See things from a different set of eyes. If money equated to happiness no rich people would do drugs or commit suicide, but hey they do both? It’s easier said than done because we have so many bad habits instilled into our being since birth but it’s definitely possible. Being content with what you have is the best thing you can do for yourself, and that doesn’t mean don’t aim for more it just means to stop bitching about what you doing have. It’s a wormhole in redundancy.

Do something. I don’t mean get up and work at a taco stand if that’s not what you want to do but stop thinking about what you want to do and do it. An advantage is only an advantage if you take advantage of that advantage. What do you like? What would make you happy? What will fill the void? Ask questions to yourself. There are always multiple sides to a person.

‘’For what's money without happiness? Or hard times without the people you love’’

People with more difficulties in life are generally happier because social networks are what allows them to keep the engine of their life working properly. Communication and teamwork isn’t an option it’s a necessity. People love saying how they don’t need anybody or they did it all by themselves. Needing people isn’t something to frown upon it’s essential to a healthy existence.